WALK AWAY

Sometimes, people misinterpret the spiritual teaching on universal love and force themselves to put up with people who are extremely toxic. Although the sages also speak of tolerance and compassion, it is important to note that they do not mean for you to lie down and let negative people walk all over you.

Just as there are people who are good for you, like teachers, mentors and good friends, there are also people who are simply the opposite. Just as it is natural for you to draw closer to your benefactors, it is just as natural for you to back away from those who are bad for you. When someone is being abusive, there is no need for you to stick around and suffer the abuse. Doing so proves nothing and does not make you especially pious.

When you distance yourself from such harmful influences, act not from anger or resentment, but from calmness and detachment. If you have trouble remaining calm, remember that toxic individuals cannot help themselves, just like hostile dogs cannot help but bark up a storm when they sense your presence. Walk away from them just like you walk away from barking dogs - without drama, hatred or ill will.

The Tao Today

Bring this idea to life by applying it. Who are the beneficial people in your life who bring out the best in you? Who are the people at the other end of the spectrum? What are some things you can do to maximize your time with those who bring you down? More important, can you do the latter with a peaceful heart free of bitterness?

The Tao of Joy Every Day

~ Derek Lin